{"id":1075,"date":"2012-12-06T16:59:37","date_gmt":"2012-12-06T16:59:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/chadstutzman.net\/?p=1075"},"modified":"2012-12-06T16:59:37","modified_gmt":"2012-12-06T16:59:37","slug":"how-healthy-are-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/?p=1075","title":{"rendered":"How Healthy Are You?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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When we talk about health most of us think about our physical health.\u00a0 That is an important thing and I try to take that seriously by eating healthy and exercising.\u00a0 Emotional and spiritual health is something we don’t think about or talk about as much.\u00a0 I believe that they are even more important than physical health because they contribute to physical health.\u00a0 When we are unhealthy emotionally or spiritually it can actually contribute to physical problems because of the unhealthy beliefs and thinking that contribute to the emotional state we are in.\u00a0 So how do we get a handle on how healthy we are emotionally.<\/p>\n

One of the biggest indicators of emotional health is the level of trust a person has.\u00a0 The dysfunction of mistrust hurts relationships, marriages, work environments, churches, families and even entire countries.\u00a0 Mistrust and control often go hand in hand.\u00a0 At its core control comes from not trusting others to make healthy and wise choices.\u00a0 Mistrust is often present when there is not proper clarity and when boundaries are not defined.\u00a0 When their is a lack of communication people begin to mistrust.\u00a0 Here are some things that create a culture of mistrust, either at home or at work:<\/p>\n

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  1. Approaching people from the beginning with an attitude of mistrust<\/strong>. <\/strong>Many people have a built-in attitude of mistrust.\u00a0 This attitude says, “I will not trust you until you prove that I can trust you.”\u00a0 That is the reverse of what a healthy person would think.\u00a0 This attitude often is the result of being hurt in the past and therefore guarding against that ever happening again.<\/li>\n
  2. Believing something to be true when you don’t have all the facts.\u00a0 <\/strong>In other words assuming things that turn out to be false or untrue.\u00a0 This happens when you don’t ask questions and dig for the truth.\u00a0 It also happens when you automatically think the worst instead of believe the best.<\/li>\n
  3. Believing what someone says without hearing the other side of the story or knowing all the facts.
    \nHealthy people don’t draw conclusions without doing due diligence.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    So how do you build trust?\u00a0 How do you change a culture in a home, church or workplace that has mistrust?<\/p>\n

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    1. Choose to trust unless you are given a reason not to.<\/strong><\/li>\n
    2. Assume that motives are right even when you disagree.<\/strong><\/li>\n
    3. Be proactive in clarifying issues rather than assuming something to be true.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      Finally here are some trust building principles that will help transform your relationships at home and at work.<\/p>\n