{"id":1450,"date":"2014-08-01T16:56:56","date_gmt":"2014-08-01T16:56:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/chadstutzman.net\/?p=1450"},"modified":"2014-08-01T16:56:56","modified_gmt":"2014-08-01T16:56:56","slug":"top-ten-relational-needs","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/?p=1450","title":{"rendered":"Top Ten Relational Needs"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/chadstutzman.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/08\/bigstockphoto_Top_Ten_4561594_0.jpg\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-1451\" src=\"http:\/\/chadstutzman.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/08\/bigstockphoto_Top_Ten_4561594_0.jpg\" alt=\"bigstockphoto_Top_Ten_4561594_0\" width=\"900\" height=\"675\" srcset=\"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/08\/bigstockphoto_Top_Ten_4561594_0.jpg 900w, https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/08\/bigstockphoto_Top_Ten_4561594_0-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/08\/bigstockphoto_Top_Ten_4561594_0-600x450.jpg 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 767px) 89vw, (max-width: 1000px) 54vw, (max-width: 1071px) 543px, 580px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>This week I taught a class entitled &#8220;The Top Ten Relational Needs&#8221;.\u00a0 It is based on a workbook by that title from <a href=\"http:\/\/www.greatcommandment.net\">Great Commandment Network.\u00a0 <\/a><\/p>\n<p>God made us with needs, and God promised to meet those needs.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cAnd my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.\u201d Philippians 4:19<\/p>\n<p>Paul is telling us that God is willing and able to meet all of our needs. It also acknowledges that we all have needs as human beings<\/p>\n<p>Neediness is a characteristic of our God-given identities.<\/p>\n<p>Physical needs:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Food<\/li>\n<li>Water<\/li>\n<li>Sleep<\/li>\n<li>Oxygen<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Spiritual needs:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>To experience God\u2019s love<\/li>\n<li>To experience God\u2019s forgiveness<\/li>\n<li>To experience God\u2019s peace<\/li>\n<li>Only God Moments<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Here are the Top Ten Relational Needs:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Acceptance<\/li>\n<li>Affection<\/li>\n<li>Appreciation<\/li>\n<li>Approval<\/li>\n<li>Attention<\/li>\n<li>Comfort<\/li>\n<li>Encouragement<\/li>\n<li>Respect<\/li>\n<li>Security<\/li>\n<li>Support<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>These needs are the same for anyone, no matter where your from, no matter how young or old you are.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s OK to have needs, it doesn\u2019t mean your weak.\u00a0 When we understand our needs, it humbles us and builds our character.<\/p>\n<p>Only God and other people can meet our needs.\u00a0 Why did God create us this way?<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Our neediness Encourages us to depend on God and look to him to meet our needs<\/li>\n<li>Our neediness encourages interdependence \u2013 We are not robots, we have feelings and emotions and our neediness requires us to have healthy human relationships. We are here to serve one another.<\/li>\n<li>Accepting the reality of our needs helps us to develop a heart filled with compassion for others<\/li>\n<li>Admitting our needs frees us to receive and give care.<\/li>\n<li>Meeting the needs of others expresses care and produces unity in the body of Christ<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>My question for you is this.\u00a0 Of the top ten relational needs listed above, which three are most important to you and which three are most important to your spouse or significant person in your life?\u00a0 If you can figure that out and then communicate clearly to each other about it, your relationship will begin to improve.\u00a0 You can control whether or not you are meeting these needs with others, you cannot control whether others will meet your needs.\u00a0 However, if you are loving and serving the other person the likelihood of them meeting your needs goes way up.\u00a0 If your too needy, that pushes everyone away from you.\u00a0 You have to first meet the needs of others and show that you can do it in a healthy way.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This week I taught a class entitled &#8220;The Top Ten Relational Needs&#8221;.\u00a0 It is based on a workbook by that title from Great Commandment Network.\u00a0 God made us with needs, and God promised to meet those needs. \u201cAnd my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.\u201d Philippians 4:19 &hellip; <\/p>\n<p class=\"link-more\"><a href=\"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/?p=1450\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;Top Ten Relational Needs&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,8,12],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1450","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-emotional-health","category-marriage","category-relationships"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1450","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1450"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1450\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1453,"href":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1450\/revisions\/1453"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1450"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1450"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1450"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}