{"id":1737,"date":"2018-02-20T19:49:44","date_gmt":"2018-02-20T19:49:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/chadstutzman.net\/?p=1737"},"modified":"2018-02-20T19:49:44","modified_gmt":"2018-02-20T19:49:44","slug":"why-most-people-dont-have-what-they-want","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/?p=1737","title":{"rendered":"Why Most People Don’t Have What They Want"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Cardiovascular problems cause thousands of deaths every day.\u00a0 The main problem is neglect.\u00a0 Every day there are thousands of divorces, often because of neglecting problems, and each other.\u00a0 The relationships and things we neglect are damaged and deteriorate faster than the relationships and things we care for and pay attention to.<\/p>\n

Think about your car.\u00a0 If you never wash it and never get it serviced it won’t last very long.\u00a0 It will start to break down and soon will quit running.\u00a0 Or think about a garden that is neglected.\u00a0 All kinds of weeds start to take over and they can choke out everything you planted.\u00a0 Our bodies and our relationships are the same way.\u00a0 If we neglect them they will stop working or weeds start to take over.<\/p>\n

So what or who are you neglecting in your life?<\/p>\n

The longer you neglect your health, your teeth, your weight, your finances, your marriage, your spouse, your character or your faith the worse it will get.<\/p>\n

Why do we neglect things that are important in our lives?\u00a0 That’s a big question, because most people want to be healthy, most people want a great marriage, most people want financial freedom, most people want a good reputation, most people want a closer relationship with God.\u00a0 The problem is most people are not willing to do the basic principles that lead to health, growth and success in those areas of their lives.<\/p>\n

It takes discipline to lose weight and get healthy, it takes discipline to work on your marriage and become a better person, it takes discipline to get out of debt and be generous, it takes discipline to grow in your faith and trust in God.<\/p>\n

Our natural tendency is to do what’s comfortable and easy.\u00a0 We avoid conflict, we avoid the scales and going to the doctor.\u00a0 We eat our favorite foods and only think about exercising.\u00a0 We avoid having that conversation or going to a trusted advisor for counsel.\u00a0 In other words we neglect some of the things that are most important in our lives and stay busy with things that don’t improve those parts of our lives.\u00a0 Many people simply hope it will get better or that the problem will just magically go away.<\/p>\n

So what should a person do if they have areas of their lives that have been neglected and damaged?\u00a0 Here are a few simple steps that can help get you back on track:<\/p>\n

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  1. Set some goals –\u00a0<\/strong>We all have two choices, making a living or designing a life.\u00a0 When you write down goals and review them often you are paying attention to parts of your life that you want to improve.\u00a0 The first step in improving an area of your life is to pay attention to it.\u00a0 The ultimate reason for setting goals is to keep us focused on the things that will bring out the person God created you to be.\u00a0 To be a better man or woman, husband or wife, father or mother, son or daughter.\u00a0 Setting goals is the first step toward being a better person.<\/li>\n
  2. Ask for help – <\/strong>Trying to accomplish major changes in your life is very difficult without the help of others.\u00a0 Whether it’s losing weight, reconciling a marriage, improving a relationship, transforming your financial condition or deepening your faith, find trustworthy people that can walk with you.\u00a0 Find people that want something for you not something from you.\u00a0 Look for people of integrity, honesty and character.\u00a0 Remember that God created you and has a purpose for your life.\u00a0 Talking to God and reading His words in Scripture can be a huge help in making changes in your life.<\/li>\n
  3. Think long-term – <\/strong>Short-term fixes don’t work.\u00a0 Cutting out carbs might help you lose some weight but long-term weight loss only happens if you change the way you eat and exercise for life.\u00a0 The same in relationships, you can learn to do some nice things for each other but if you don’t address your core issues your right back in the same place a year later.\u00a0 Address why you eat too much, address why you get so angry, address why you spend so much money.\u00a0 That is the hard part of change, not just putting a bandage on the wound but cleaning it out and stitching it up.<\/li>\n
  4. Don’t give up – <\/strong>The hard work is always worth it.\u00a0 When you exercise on a regular basis you get sore and hurt for a while, but as your muscles and lungs and heart get stronger you feel so much better.\u00a0 When you learn what your hot buttons are and how you defend yourself, then you can start working on changing your responses, which will improve your relationships.\u00a0 Put in the hard work, face your fears, keep pushing to get better and don’t give up.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    So if you’ve been neglecting areas of your life start making plans to change that today.\u00a0 A year from now you will be glad you did.<\/p>\n

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      Cardiovascular problems cause thousands of deaths every day.\u00a0 The main problem is neglect.\u00a0 Every day there are thousands of divorces, often because of neglecting problems, and each other.\u00a0 The relationships and things we neglect are damaged and deteriorate faster than the relationships and things we care for and pay attention to. Think about your … <\/p>\n

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