{"id":226,"date":"2009-02-13T15:12:00","date_gmt":"2009-02-13T15:12:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/chadstutzman.net\/?p=226"},"modified":"2009-02-13T15:12:00","modified_gmt":"2009-02-13T15:12:00","slug":"what-did-you-say","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/?p=226","title":{"rendered":"What did you say?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Most people that I talk to would say they are above average as a driver, above average on sense of humor and above average on listening.  I must say that I would say that about myself as well.<\/p>\n<p>The fact is that most of people are not good listeners.  I won&#8217;t get into the driving and sense of humor thing.<\/p>\n<p>As a leader, listening is a vital characteristic for success.  Unfortunately many leader&#8217;s are terrible listeners.  They are often thinking about what to say next themselves, or how to respond back.  I see this often in marriage relationships and in parenting as well.  By the way, if you are married or a parent, you are definitely a leader.  Spouses and parents that do a poor job of listening usually leads to conflict and damage to the relationships.<\/p>\n<p>If you want to improve your leadership at home and at work, focus on improving your listening skills this week.  Here are some conclusions about good listening:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Understanding people comes before leading them<\/li>\n<li>You learn the most by listening<\/li>\n<li>Listening can keep problems from escalating<\/li>\n<li>Listening establishes trust<\/li>\n<li>Listening can improve all your relationships<\/li>\n<li>Listening to understand helps avoid misunderstandings<\/li>\n<li>Listening shows you care.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Try to be a focused listener the next time you are in a meeting or talking with someone you love.  <\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Repeat back to the person speaking what you heard them say.  <\/li>\n<li>Maintain good eye contact.  <\/li>\n<li>Ask questions to help you understand and clarify what was said.  <\/li>\n<li>Take some notes of what is being said.  <\/li>\n<li>Pay attention to the non-verbals like tone of voice and facial expressions.<\/li>\n<li>Seek out the thoughts, opinions, and feelings of others.  <\/li>\n<li>Listen 80% of the time and talk 20% of the time.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>If you can do that on a consistent basis, you will see drastic improvements in your relationships and in your leadership.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Most people that I talk to would say they are above average as a driver, above average on sense of humor and above average on listening. I must say that I would say that about myself as well. The fact is that most of people are not good listeners. I won&#8217;t get into the driving &hellip; <\/p>\n<p class=\"link-more\"><a href=\"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/?p=226\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;What did you say?&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,7,8],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-226","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-leadership","category-listening","category-marriage"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/226","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=226"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/226\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=226"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=226"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=226"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}