{"id":783,"date":"2011-10-13T01:51:02","date_gmt":"2011-10-13T01:51:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/chadstutzman.net\/?p=783"},"modified":"2011-10-13T01:51:02","modified_gmt":"2011-10-13T01:51:02","slug":"the-art-of-confrontation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/?p=783","title":{"rendered":"The Art of Confrontation"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Conflict is all around us, none of us can escape conflict.\u00a0 We try to avoid it, we try to minimize it, we try to attack it but we should resolve it.\u00a0 Usually the way to reach resolution is through confrontation.\u00a0 In a conflict situation the best way to obtain peace is to start by confronting the issue.\u00a0 The problem is for most of us the idea of confronting is not something we are good at and we often do it in the wrong way.\u00a0 This will usually cause the conflict to get worse.\u00a0 Jesus was very good at confrontation.\u00a0 He gave us some clear examples of how to do it.\u00a0 One of those times is in John 8:48-59.\u00a0 Jesus is having a showdown with some of the leader’s of the Jews.\u00a0 Here are four steps Jesus used to get to the heart of the issue:<\/p>\n

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  1. He was clear and direct<\/strong> – Often times when we confront we are not able to be clear, because our emotions are clouding our thinking.\u00a0 The best way to confront someone is by being as clear and direct as possible.\u00a0 This should not be done in a condescending way or in an aggressive attacking way.<\/li>\n
  2. He did not draw attention to himself – <\/strong>He did not get all emotional and throw a temper tantrum.\u00a0 He didn’t puff himself up and try to make himself look good or look smarter.<\/li>\n
  3. He laid out the issues and asked for a decision – <\/strong>Many times we don’t lay out all the cards, or if we do, we don’t ask for a decision.\u00a0 If the person needs more time to process and think, give them time but come back to the real issues and how to resolve them.<\/li>\n
  4. He trusted God to justify and reveal the truth – <\/strong>Sometimes we can’t completely resolve a situation, but we should always try.\u00a0 We must trust that God is going to continue to work in this situation as long we are being obedient to owning our part of the conflict and confronting in a loving way with the right motives.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Here are some more takeaways on the right way to confront:<\/p>\n

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    1. Clarify the desired relationship you wish to have<\/strong><\/li>\n
    2. Make sure you have the right motives, speak the truth in love<\/strong><\/li>\n
    3. Define the unacceptable behavior<\/strong><\/li>\n
    4. Highlight your values and priorities, what’s important to you?
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    5. List the conduct that illustrate your point – be specific<\/strong><\/li>\n
    6. Share the possible consequences if no resolution can be reached<\/strong><\/li>\n
    7. Offer hope for a new future – reconciliation is the goal<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      Resolving conflict is never easy, but always worth the effort.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

        Conflict is all around us, none of us can escape conflict.\u00a0 We try to avoid it, we try to minimize it, we try to attack it but we should resolve it.\u00a0 Usually the way to reach resolution is through confrontation.\u00a0 In a conflict situation the best way to obtain peace is to start by … <\/p>\n

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