{"id":832,"date":"2011-12-03T17:56:09","date_gmt":"2011-12-03T17:56:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/chadstutzman.net\/?p=832"},"modified":"2011-12-03T17:56:09","modified_gmt":"2011-12-03T17:56:09","slug":"the-fear-factor-in-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/chadstutzman.com\/?p=832","title":{"rendered":"The Fear Factor in Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"

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None of us need new ways to screw up our relationships.\u00a0 The way in which we mess things up is working just fine.\u00a0 Most of us tend to fail in the same ways over and over again.\u00a0 It is part of our hard wiring that has happened over our entire lives.\u00a0 We have learned how to deal with pain, in mostly unhealthy ways.\u00a0 At the core of our behaviors that cause problems in our lives is fear.\u00a0 Fear is what drives us to do and say things that mess up our relationships.\u00a0 These fears have been embedded in us over a long period of time and when certain buttons are pushed, the fear rises up and out rushes our response to the heat or pain we are experiencing.\u00a0 Our emotions are an indicator of what is going on inside of us.\u00a0 They are like warning lights that something is not right.\u00a0 Fear will amplify those emotions to the point of no return.<\/p>\n

So the question we need to ask ourselves is what do I do when I am afraid?\u00a0 What is my typical reaction when my fear button gets pushed?\u00a0 Here is a list of some of the most common unhealthy reactions we have:<\/p>\n