One thing that I’ve learned as a leader, is that reading is vital to continue growing and to get better as a leader. It’s also healthy for our brains and mental health. In light of that, I thought I’d share some some of the books I have recently read, what I am currently reading, and what is on my list to read.
MultiChurch: Exploring the Future of Multisite by Brad House and Greg Allison – great book with insight into what churches are doing with multisite to grow and reach more people. There are many ways to do it, and they look at the positives and negatives of all the models.
Books I am currently Reading or Plan on Reading this Summer:
The Bible – Written by 40 different authors inspired by God and the best selling most read book of all time. Available in many different translations, I like the Message, Contemporary English Version and the New Century Version.
I hope this inspires you to do some reading this summer as well. This is one way you can work on yourself and grow. In whatever area of your life you want to improve, find a good book and start reading.
Some circumstances in your life – such as financial problems,
marital difficulties or serious illness – might leave you feeling trapped. But
no matter how hopeless your situation might seem, God can and will lead you out
of it if you trust Him.
Remember that nothing is impossible for God. He even parted the
waters of the Red Sea so the Israelites trapped between the sea and a crowd of
hostile Egyptians could emerge victorious from tough circumstances.
Here are some principles to keep in mind when you feel trapped:
“Realize that God means for you to be where you are.” Either God led you into your current circumstances, or He allowed them to occur as the result of some choices you made. Remember that His goal is a good one – to build your faith. Also remember that He promises to always be right beside you, no matter what your circumstances.
“Be more concerned for God’s glory than for your relief.” When you’re overwhelmed, stop asking how you can get out of your situation. Instead, ask how God can be glorified in it. This will change your perspective so you can see the potential in the situation. Consider what you can do in the midst of your particular situation to bring glory to God, in ways such as thanking Him for ways He has answered your prayers in the past, and praising Him for His character. Understand that God’s plan for how He will deliver you from tough circumstances may be different from what you expect, but that He will do so in the best way.
“Acknowledge your enemy, but keep your eyes on the Lord.” Be aware that you will often have to contend with evil spiritual forces who would like to see you trapped forever, but that you can always overcome them by God’s power. Focus on God rather than worrying about evil. Choose to obey God in even the smallest decisions in your life, striving to be honest and faithful, rather than giving into deceitful temptations that will ultimately make things worse, not better.
“Pray!” Pray frequently and specifically about your circumstances, and expect God to answer your prayers.
“Stay calm and confident, and give God time to work.” Rather than wasting time and energy trying to solve a problem by yourself, be patient, and trust God to act in His timing. Know that He has a good reason for waiting whenever He chooses to do so.
“When unsure, just take the next logical step by faith.” Know that God often guides moment by moment, giving you just enough information to take only the next step forward. Then He often waits to see whether you will take that step before revealing more of what He wants you to do. So show God that you take His guidance seriously by acting on what you already know He wants you to do.
“Envision God’s enveloping presence.” Take comfort in the fact that God can transform your past, present, and future. He uses your past failures to help you grow, loves you in the present, and guides you wisely into the future. Visualize God with you right now, and remind yourself that He was with you yesterday and He’ll be with you tomorrow.
“Trust God to deliver in His own unique way.” Know that God will choose the best way to deliver you from your current circumstances. Expect Him to act powerfully, working as He often does through ordinary people and events, or even through a supernatural miracle.
“View your current crisis as a faith builder for the future.” Choose to believe that God will actually do what He has promised. Ask God to use your current experiences to build a more mature faith in you, that will serve you well in the future.
“Don’t forget to praise Him.” Thank God for what He has already done for you, and demonstrate confidence that He will continue to act in love and wisdom.
This past weekend I got outside for a run for the first time in many months. It was so nice to be outside in God’s creation running along a quiet country road.
I came across a group of Amish as I was running. An Amish man with about 10 children out picking up trash in the field and along the road. I’m sure they were part of the family that owns the farm, and clean up is a part of every Spring for them. They can’t use those fields if it’s full of trash.
It’s amazing to me how many people through bottles, cans and junk out their windows, and litter our neighborhoods, streets and roadways. I guess that’s part of living in this world, if you’re a land owner part of what needs to happen is cleaning up your property, even if the mess was caused by someone else.
It’s like that in our spiritual and emotional lives as well. Sometimes people litter on us emotionally or spiritually. Maybe it’s saying something hurtful, or doing something abusive to us. Maybe it’s leading us away from our relationship with God, or getting distracted by other things. The reality is our lives are often quite messy, some of it we bring on ourselves, and some is thrown out the window by others, and it lands on us.
So how do we clean up and get rid of the litter? Well, let’s learn from this Amish family.
Acknowledge that you have a mess to clean up – They saw the mess and decided to clean it up. This can be the hardest step because most of us want to bury the mess. The problem is, those buried things keep popping up in our lives. Sometimes it’s buried so deep we need some help uncovering it. Emotional and spiritual hurts that are buried can never heal properly unless they are picked up and thrown out. Pride is often the reason we don’t take this first step.
Build a team – They knew it would go faster with more help. Life is hard, and it’s even harder when we do it alone. Find some people that care about you, and are willing to walk with you through whatever you need to clean up. This should be a small team and you need to be careful, because there are a lot of people that might mean well, but are not helpful. When adding to this team ask these questions. Does this person want what’s best for me? Does this person have a relationship with God that is growing? Will this person keep things confidential? Will this person lift me up or pull me down? Ask God to help you as you surround yourself with the right people.
Get Started – They had to pick a day and just start cleaning. At some point we have to start making some changes. We can get great counsel and have some great self-awareness, but if we never make any changes or try something new or different, nothing will change. Sometimes we need to just start picking up the trash and throwing it away. It’s in this process that a lot of the growth and healing will happen. It’s having that difficult conversation, asking for forgiveness, forgiving someone else, reading a book, seeing a counselor and doing the homework. If we just keep doing the same old thing, we just keep getting the same old result.
Keep God in the center of it all – This is God’s creation, let’s keep it beautiful. Those first three steps are things we can do to start improving our lives, but this step is really the key to lasting life change. The spiritual side of our lives is the most important, and often the most neglected part of our lives. We try to fix all the junk and yet still feel empty and broken. When we plug into God He transforms, heals, buildings, shapes, restores and renews us. When we bring God into every part of our lives and fully surrender it all to Him it leads to freedom, fulfillment and wholeness. When we trust God completely, He is faithful and brings the needed transformation in our lives. He is God and we are not.
Once you’ve picked up the trash, choose to throw it away – Once they picked up all the trash it went to the dumpster. We can actually get comfortable with our junk. Throwing something away can be hard, especially if we’ve been carrying it for years. That’s why having God involved helps so much. The more we trust God the less we rely the junk we’ve held onto, making it easier to pitch it in the trash and not pick it up again.
Stick with it – I’m sure they have to do this once or twice a year. There will be more trash thrown at us, and we need to keep cleaning up every year. If our spiritual lives are thriving, most of the time there is less clean up to do. When we are healthy spiritually and emotionally we have better boundaries in our lives and are much more resilient when things go wrong or get hard.
It’s so helpful to remember that God is for us and He is in us. That combination is amazing, and it leads directly to less trash to pick up. So focus on God and build that level of trust and closeness to Him. Doing that will lead to breakthroughs in other areas of our lives.
If you are ready to start cleaning up, a good place to start is a growing, thriving local church. Find a place where you can connect with God, and other people. Step out of your comfort zone and take some risks to grow spiritually, that’s the best way to clean up the junk and change your life.
It’s the most generous time of the year. For many people Christmas time is a time to be generous with family, friends and even strangers. It’s also the end of the year and people are thinking of year end giving. I want to talk about generosity and what that really means.
As a follower of Jesus one of my desires is to be known as a generous person. Jesus was very generous with his time, talent and treasure. He taught many life-changing messages and stories about being generous. He even gave his life for our sins.
Generosity is demonstrating the nature of God by wisely reinvesting the resources that He has entrusted to us. There are several key traits that go into making someone generous. Without these in our lives we cannot be truly generous.
Loving – It is not possible to have love without generosity, but it is possible to have generosity without love. If you have the love of Christ in you, then generosity should flow out of you. It should be a part of your nature to be generous and look for ways to give and serve others. 1 John 3:17 says “If anyone has material possessions and sees his brother in need, but has no pity on him, how can the love of God be in him?
Sowing – Generosity follows the law of the harvest. The more generous we are in sowing, the greater will be our harvest in true riches. 2 Corinthians 9:6 says “Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously.
Honoring – Honor means “to place value upon.” We are instructed in Ephesians 6:12 to honor our parents. We honor civil authorities by paying taxes and following laws. When we give to the poor, we honor the Lord and He promises to repay. Proverbs 19:17 says “He who is kind to the poor lends to the Lord, and he will reward him for what he has done.” Generosity is not just giving, it is giving abundantly or joyfully.
Grace – It is through God’s grace that we are able to give and be generous, and that giving is an expression of the grace we have in Christ Jesus.
Stewardship – A steward is one who is entrusted with the assets of the master and is responsible to make wise investments with them. A wise steward understands that the assets he has under his control do not belong to him and should be returned to the master with increase. We are stewards of all the people, possessions, abilities and talents that God has blessed us with.
Generosity brings light into a dark world. It makes people smile and feel good. Generosity also draws us closer to God because it’s when we are most like Him. Giving also reminds us that God owns it all and that He is the one that can give us more or take it all away. Being generous also breaks the bondage of greed and overcomes the love of money.
Here are some simple steps to help you be more generous:
Dedicate everything to God – This includes all your money, time, possessions, strength, abilities, and relationships. Truly acknowledge that God owns it all. That takes a lot of pressure off of us.
Practice living simply – Try to simplify your life. This could mean selling or giving away some of your stuff. It might mean giving up some luxury items so that you can live at or below your income. It may mean saying no to some things in order to say yes to being more generous.
Give as God directs – The goal of generosity is to demonstrate the love of God so that others will be drawn to Him. Start being generous by doing random acts of kindness. You can also start giving to your local church. Consider giving a percentage of your income. Start giving your time by volunteering at your church, in the community or at a non-profit.
So how generous are you? Do you see God as the provider of all wealth? Do you see yourself as a steward of God’s resources? Do you honor God with a generous portion of all His increase in your life? Are you living as frugally as you can so you have more to invest in God?
Generosity is the result of focusing on God’s riches rather than our resources. CS Lewis said this “I do not believe one can settle how much we ought to give. I am afraid the only safe rule is to give more than we can spare.”
Ask God for opportunities to be generous and see what happens.
We are all busy, there are many things competing for our time and energy. Leadership can be defined as having influence in someone elses life. If you have faith in Jesus Christ you are also a spiritual leader, because now you are an ambassador for God. The influence we have with people, whether it’s at work, home, school or church is often a reflection on what daily habits we have.
Jesus gave us a great example of things we can do to stay focused on the right things and keep the right perspective on life. It’s easy to drift and be consumed by the day to day activities of life unless we develop these essential habits. So here are five things we can observe in the life of Jesus that can contribute to our development of faith, character and leadership.
Solitude – This is a challenging behavior because it’s countercultural. It is a rare and often unsettling feeling to stop doing and just be. Solitude is being completely alone with God away from all human contact for extended periods of time. It is in these times of solitude that we can seek to refill our spiritual fuel tank, hear from God, think clearly and honestly. It helps us make better decisions, work through grief and pain and strengthen our spirit and resolve.
Jesus spent 40 days alone in the desert.
Before he chose the 12 disciples he spent the entire night alone praying and thinking.
When a close friend John the Baptist was killed he went off in a boat by himself.
After a great ministry event of feeding the five thousand he went up into the hills by himself.
Prayer – How’s your prayer life? Prayer is essential for our spiritual and emotional well-being. Regular connection with God through prayer is what sustained Jesus while he was here on earth. For us as leaders it’s vital to be able to talk with God about anything and everything. Prayer is the way in which we plug into God’s power, receive God’s comfort and encouragement, vent our frustrations and pain and intercede for other people. Prayer helps prepare us for the day by focusing on God first. Praying with people and for people is a powerful leadership principle. Praying for your spouse, family, friends, co-workers, employees, small group, boss and other leaders is an effective way to lead and love people. When prayer becomes a habit it becomes part of our DNA and normal way of life.
Bible – It’s the greatest resource known to mankind. It’s more than a how-to manual for life, it’s an intimate love letter written to you from your Heavenly Father. I’m currently reading through the New Testament in 60 days. I’m on day 51 and I love it and look forward to it. There are five practical ways you can cultivate this habit of getting into God’s Word.
Hearing God’s Word – That is why it’s important to go to church, to hear God’s Word and messages about how to listen and obey and put it into practice. You can also listen to the Bible through great Bible Apps like YouVersion. Have your spouse or friend read the Bible out loud to you, not only will you get into God’s Word it will build that relationship with your spouse or friend.
Reading God’s Word – There are so many great translations of the Bible that it’s much easier to read the Bible today. I use my Bible App on my phone a lot. There are great reading plans for all parts of the Bible. Don’t take on too much but be consistent. Reading the Bible daily or most days will help you lead better, even if you don’t understand everything at first. Great leaders read a lot and the Bible should be at the top of the list.
Study God’s Word – This is more than just reading, this is examining and looking into the meaning and application of God’s Word. This is great to do with other people in a small group, but we also need times when we dig in on our own. Using a study Bible is helpful because there are study notes that explain what the Scriptures are saying.
Memorize God’s Word – When was the last time you memorized something? A great way to go deeper in God’s Word is to memorize it. Every year I lead a group of men and one of the things we do is memorize Scripture together. Jesus used Scripture to fight against the devil and we can do the same. When you memorize it you can recall it later when you need courage for the fight.
Meditate on God’s Word – Memorizing Scripture puts it into your head, while meditating puts it into your heart. It’s focusing on a verse or several verses over a period of time. Writing it down, reading it out loud, emphasizing different words, personalizing it by putting your name in the verse, praying the verse to God. It’s praying while your focus on that Scripture and asking God to reveal what he wants you to know or do.
Trusting God – Jesus completely trusted God with absolutely everything. In our culture we tend to only rely on or trust ourselves. Trusting others and God is a struggle for most people. Pride & fear fuel this lack of trust in our lives. Many people have also been hurt or let down by important people in their lives so it’s hard to trust again. Only in our relationship with God can we trust for complete unconditional love. Because of God’s incredible, never changing love for us He is trustworthy. When we understand who God is and how much He loves us it changes our perspective on life, ourselves and the world around us.
Intimate Community – Jesus had the 12 men that he spent significant time with. But he also had 3 men that he was even closer and more intimate with. It was his inner circle, the ones he did life with and passed on the leadership of the church to. It’s vital for leaders to have soul-filling relationships with people where you can give and receive. A safe place to share your heart, your struggles and your victories. We need to be around people that know us well enough to tell us the truth, challenge us, question us and love us.
I hope these are habits that become a normal part of your life. I encourage you to take small steps toward applying these habits into your daily, weekly and monthly routines. If you do it will transform your leadership and your relationships.