Do you ever have times when it seems like your prayers are not working? Like God is not listening? These dry times can make us feel alone and desperate. When we pray we look for answers and solutions to whatever is facing us. We also look for a feeling of peace and comfort, and when we don’t get that we can get frustrated. I was having a conversation with some people today about how I have learned to be more compassionate by listening and not always trying to fix people and their situations.
God is like that; He is not a fixer, He is a lover. I think many times God is listening to us and encouraging us, but he is not about to fix us or the issues we have. If He would do that every time we pray, we would never go through the growing pains we all need. The process of learning, growing and changing is difficult and it is often in those most trying times that we grow the most. It’s often when we are at our lowest that God can do the most inside of us. I believe God is always nudging us to grow in our character and because of that He will allow us to go through some really difficult things.
God is always listening, concerned and compassionate. He is not going to give us three steps to overcome our issue. Instead He wants us to look to the Bible, other Christians and other resources to search for answers and ideas. That is part of the process and God will sit silently until we go through that process. So don’t give up, keep praying, keep searching and keep growing. Each time we seek the Lord with all our heart we grow. God loves us too much to fix us, He sent His son Jesus to die for us so we wouldn’t have to be perfect. Sometimes it is best just to enjoy His love and lean into Him even when we don’t feel the peace or comfort. Sometimes we need to vent to God knowing He is listening and can take it.
By not fixing our situation God allows us to learn from our mistakes and to deepen our faith. He will often give us little things along the journey to let us know He is with us and for us. When He gives us those little Only God moments we get that feeling of peace and comfort. So keep growing in your relationship with Jesus Christ, it’s the most important thing you will ever do.
Relationships are so important and yet they are also so challenging. When you think about it relationships are what matter most in life because that is what people will remember. I have been doing a lot of funerals lately and am always reminded that none of know how long we have or how old we really are. That is why it is so important to make sure that we are working on the relationships in our lives. Checking our priorities to make sure we are actually putting things like family, spouse, children, friends and God at the top of the list. The real test is what we actually do, not what we say. That is where the real work comes in, putting effort into the important relationships.
Here are several principles that will improve all your relationships if applied:
- Don’t bury the problem or the pain it’s causing you.
- Don’t use inflammatory remarks, sarcasm, or name-calling. Don’t generalize or exaggerate.
- Don’t let the conflict broaden to other issues.
- Never use ultimatums or threats.
- Don’t use disrespectful body language or demeaning nonverbal communication.
- Don’t interrupt, don’t raise your voice, don’t walk away or withdraw or hang up the phone in the middle of conflict.
- Do take time out to regain your composure.
- Do prepare for the confrontation before you engage in it.
- Do ask for advice on what you can do to help resolve the problem.
- Do use many encouraging and positive statements.
- When possible, reassure the person of your ongoing commitment to them and your desire to strengthen and build the relationship.
I could keep going, but those are some of the best things we can do to improve any relationship that is important to us. Keep working at it, it is worth the effort. A healthy happy relationship will bring great joy and peace into your life.